Making Sense out of the senseless....
I have learned that people do things for different reasons and you might not understand the reasons people do things until they tell you or they may never tell you and you are standing there shaking your head and mouthing "What the heck" aloud. Well, I have done more then a few things that people probably shook their heads about and said to each other or aloud what the heck was she thinking and honestly I have done the same with myself and others.
Today I had one of those shake your head and wonder moments with a family member. This family member is young in his late 20's so he still has a lot to learn. But, this one doesn't really like to communicate things going on in his life with anyone in the family. That can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on what is going on in your life and whom you are telling or not telling it to. Well, about a month ago this one says he applied for a job, a good job and actually got called in for an interview after he was skeptical about them calling him. He had the interview and was anxiously waiting for the results as he called them. He said that he wanted a second job to try to get ahead and make enough income to buy a house for his grandmother. The job he has now is not generating enough income for anything according to the lenders he talked with although his credit is close to perfect. So, that is his dream to move his grandmother into a house before she dies. So, crossing his fingers and praying he finally got a call offering him the job. It was part time but he would make more working on that job then his full time job he has now. He was happy and everyone was thinking "YES" he can finally get ahead. We almost broke out the champagne. But, of course who has that hanging around? But, we were feeling joy.
A couple of weeks went by and I was talking to my sister, his mother, and I said oh did you hear anything about so and so's new job and she said no did it take the physical yet. None of us had a clue so my sister went to the source and asked and he said oh that they physical was in a city that he was not familiar with and far away from the house so he asked the woman who offered him the job if there was a place closer he could go and she said no. So, on that note he politely declined the job offer and told her he was sorry but he couldn't take the job anymore.
Needless to say everyone was scratching their head and wondering what in the world? He never would have mentioned anything about it if he hadn't been asked. He would have just went on to work at his other job and continued life as normal. So, that made me think maybe for him that is normal. For him it is normal to turn down a job if you have to go out of your comfort zone to places unknown that are far from your apartment. So, I stopped shaking my head and chalked it up to that what is normal for one person might not be for the next and that maybe it will still all work out the way he wants it and that it will just probably take longer now.
So when he swaggered in from coming back from the grocery store with the groceries he brought for his grandma I just smiled and thanked him for being him.
Today I had one of those shake your head and wonder moments with a family member. This family member is young in his late 20's so he still has a lot to learn. But, this one doesn't really like to communicate things going on in his life with anyone in the family. That can be a good thing or a bad thing depending on what is going on in your life and whom you are telling or not telling it to. Well, about a month ago this one says he applied for a job, a good job and actually got called in for an interview after he was skeptical about them calling him. He had the interview and was anxiously waiting for the results as he called them. He said that he wanted a second job to try to get ahead and make enough income to buy a house for his grandmother. The job he has now is not generating enough income for anything according to the lenders he talked with although his credit is close to perfect. So, that is his dream to move his grandmother into a house before she dies. So, crossing his fingers and praying he finally got a call offering him the job. It was part time but he would make more working on that job then his full time job he has now. He was happy and everyone was thinking "YES" he can finally get ahead. We almost broke out the champagne. But, of course who has that hanging around? But, we were feeling joy.
A couple of weeks went by and I was talking to my sister, his mother, and I said oh did you hear anything about so and so's new job and she said no did it take the physical yet. None of us had a clue so my sister went to the source and asked and he said oh that they physical was in a city that he was not familiar with and far away from the house so he asked the woman who offered him the job if there was a place closer he could go and she said no. So, on that note he politely declined the job offer and told her he was sorry but he couldn't take the job anymore.
Needless to say everyone was scratching their head and wondering what in the world? He never would have mentioned anything about it if he hadn't been asked. He would have just went on to work at his other job and continued life as normal. So, that made me think maybe for him that is normal. For him it is normal to turn down a job if you have to go out of your comfort zone to places unknown that are far from your apartment. So, I stopped shaking my head and chalked it up to that what is normal for one person might not be for the next and that maybe it will still all work out the way he wants it and that it will just probably take longer now.
So when he swaggered in from coming back from the grocery store with the groceries he brought for his grandma I just smiled and thanked him for being him.
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