Meeting the Past

About 15 years ago or so I left an ex. I stayed with him for  over 9 years and the whole relationship if that's what you want to it should have only lasted 9 minutes. But, I had put him and that relationship in the past where it belonged and never looked back. I didn't care where he was or what he was doing. He was the past and I had moved on from him and that thing we had. So, I was shocked when I was on Facebook yesterday, Father's Day of all days, and I got a message request from this woman who had the same first name as one of that exes kids. Of course she is not a kid anymore she is a young woman now. I never had the pleasure of meeting her when I was with her dad because her dad told me nothing about her. The only way I knew that she existed was when I saw a baby picture of her his mom had. When we met he said he had only one daughter and the name he mentioned was not this girls name so after I asked him about her he gave me some lame excuse about not telling me about her and basically blamed it on her mom. I knew it was a lie and shortly after that we broke up for good.

This young woman said she was doing a search for her older sister, the one he told me about and said she was doing a search online and found out that I lived at the house he lived at back in the day and asked if I was a relative. I told her I wasn't and told her that I used to date her father back in the day and she asked if I knew her sister. I told her the truth that I never met her sister but heard a lot about her and her saw a picture. She talked to me about the relatives that I knew that she didn't know and asked me some questions and I told her where to look on Facebook for possible answers about finding her sister. She messaged me and told me that she found her and thanked me for helping her. She said she hadn't talked to her dad in 7 years. She didn't know where he was. I couldn't help her with that since I hadn't talked to him and have no desire to talk to him. She understood without me going into any details.  I won't talk bad about him. It was what it was.

She seems like a nice young lady. Very mature and her mom raised her right. She asked if I would like to meet her one day so she can thank me in person.  Maybe one day that will happen.

It was just "crazy" that I spent part of Father's Day talking about a father who never acted like one to this charming young woman.