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I was watching an episode of the Golden Girls on TV. I used to love to watch them when they were on back in the day. Of course my mom can careless for them. But, there was nothing on I wanted to watch and she was napping so I snuck them on so to say for a few episodes and in this one Blanche thought that a man she was dating was not good enough for her that they were just too different. So, the girls were talking at the kitchen table about what kind of man they wanted the second time around and Dorthy said that she wanted a man to grow old with. That got me to thinking about myself. I was never married. Engaged once but never made it to the alter and thankfully God was looking out for me with that one. Now, in my early 50's I am not getting any younger and the thought of me walking down any aisles anytime soon as a bride dwindle with each passing day. Yes, people say that it can happen but the likelihood is slim I think in my case and I am OK with that too.
A few years ago when I got Facebook I connected with one of the girls I went to high school with and in high school she and I weren't the best of friends. We would say hello to each other in the halls in passing and I might have had her in a couple of classes over the years but we were far from close. Which is why I was surprised when she shared so much of her life with me through our Facebook chats. She shared with me all the details about her job and college life. She has a pretty good job that she enjoys and travels a lot for work which I sort of envied when she told me because it has been a dream of mine to travel more. She has been to all the places that I have wanted to go, twice. I was excited to read all about her travels and the things that she accomplished over the years. She told me that she was divorced and that she considered her first marriage her "starter" marriage. I wasn't sure what she met about that being a "starter" marriage but I supposed she met that it didn't last so it was "starter" for her. I didn't ask her what she met. I didn't want to be that nosy. So, she went on to tell me that she didn't have any kids but her nephew was like a son to her and she spoiled him rotten. She was dating someone at the time and when I asked her if she thought she would marry again she just sent a smiling face and said that perhaps and said that she was getting older and didn't dwell on marriage the way she did when she was younger. I don't know if she ever got married again. I talked to her only a couple more time after that and then I think she deactivated her page and moved on.
My other high school classmate I talked to recently on Facebook was the best friend of the school secretary's daughter. She is tall and beautiful. I was not close with her either but we were friendly and plus in the 5th grade I had her mom as a teacher. We reconnected when my mom got sick and I posted for some prayers on Facebook without really going into details.She private messaged me and asked what was going on and I told her and her dad had similar health problems. We bonded over the health issues of our aging parents and plus we both named our son's the same first name. Her son is ten years older then mine though. And we joked that if I had a girl I had to name her after her daughter too. A couple of months ago she posted wedding pictures of herself and her groom. This is the second marriage for her. And they moved out of state so it is a big new beginning for her also.
My best friend and I are so similar. Neither of us have gotten married and we both have one child. Her daughter is all grown up now and a college graduate. My son is ten years old going on eleven at the end of the year. We both have aging parents living with us with health problems and neither of us seems to be growing old as gracefully as we would like.
On the episode of the golden girls I came to the conclusion like Dorothy that I wanted someone to grow old with or finish growing old with. Since I am mostly already there. I would like to sit on the porch with someone hold hands and watch the sun come up and the sun go down sipping on and adult beverage.
Maybe one day that will happen but if it never does I told my friend in Ohio whom I have known for 15 years that if neither one of us are married by the time we are 80 we have to marry each other. He laughed and laughed and said it was a date meet him at the alter in my state or his when we turn 80 and we can figure out what retirement home we want to live in. I am looking forward to 80 which will be the new 75 by then.
A few years ago when I got Facebook I connected with one of the girls I went to high school with and in high school she and I weren't the best of friends. We would say hello to each other in the halls in passing and I might have had her in a couple of classes over the years but we were far from close. Which is why I was surprised when she shared so much of her life with me through our Facebook chats. She shared with me all the details about her job and college life. She has a pretty good job that she enjoys and travels a lot for work which I sort of envied when she told me because it has been a dream of mine to travel more. She has been to all the places that I have wanted to go, twice. I was excited to read all about her travels and the things that she accomplished over the years. She told me that she was divorced and that she considered her first marriage her "starter" marriage. I wasn't sure what she met about that being a "starter" marriage but I supposed she met that it didn't last so it was "starter" for her. I didn't ask her what she met. I didn't want to be that nosy. So, she went on to tell me that she didn't have any kids but her nephew was like a son to her and she spoiled him rotten. She was dating someone at the time and when I asked her if she thought she would marry again she just sent a smiling face and said that perhaps and said that she was getting older and didn't dwell on marriage the way she did when she was younger. I don't know if she ever got married again. I talked to her only a couple more time after that and then I think she deactivated her page and moved on.
My other high school classmate I talked to recently on Facebook was the best friend of the school secretary's daughter. She is tall and beautiful. I was not close with her either but we were friendly and plus in the 5th grade I had her mom as a teacher. We reconnected when my mom got sick and I posted for some prayers on Facebook without really going into details.She private messaged me and asked what was going on and I told her and her dad had similar health problems. We bonded over the health issues of our aging parents and plus we both named our son's the same first name. Her son is ten years older then mine though. And we joked that if I had a girl I had to name her after her daughter too. A couple of months ago she posted wedding pictures of herself and her groom. This is the second marriage for her. And they moved out of state so it is a big new beginning for her also.
My best friend and I are so similar. Neither of us have gotten married and we both have one child. Her daughter is all grown up now and a college graduate. My son is ten years old going on eleven at the end of the year. We both have aging parents living with us with health problems and neither of us seems to be growing old as gracefully as we would like.
On the episode of the golden girls I came to the conclusion like Dorothy that I wanted someone to grow old with or finish growing old with. Since I am mostly already there. I would like to sit on the porch with someone hold hands and watch the sun come up and the sun go down sipping on and adult beverage.
Maybe one day that will happen but if it never does I told my friend in Ohio whom I have known for 15 years that if neither one of us are married by the time we are 80 we have to marry each other. He laughed and laughed and said it was a date meet him at the alter in my state or his when we turn 80 and we can figure out what retirement home we want to live in. I am looking forward to 80 which will be the new 75 by then.
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