Scream!

Yesterday since my sister was here I decided that she could help me put some boxes in the garage that needed to be moved. So, she was sorting through some stuff she had in there too when she moved she stored some stuff here. So, as she was looking for her purses and books I was moving old bikes and boxes out of the way and moving them from one side to the other and all of a sudden I heard hollering coming from across the street. This is not an unusual occurrence. It happens multi times during the month. I think that I have and most of the neighbors who have stuck around long enough have either gotten used to it or gotten used to ignoring it. So, as I went about my business I noticed that the kids, one of them belonging to the woman doing the hollering was outside bouncing a ball and playing with my son and a couple of other kids and her kid didn't miss a beat. I was thinking this must be normal for him and then I thought to all the times since I moved here I heard hollering, and arguing over there and I guess after a while like the neighbors in the neighborhood you just get used to it. Which is sad.

My parents argued from time to time but they never really screamed at each other in front of us like this neighborhood and they never came out of the house screaming at each other. Whatever problems they had the whole neighborhood didn't know about it. Most of the time neither did my sister or I. I guess back then there was less of fighting or arguing in front of the kids. We knew that they didn't agree on every thing but nobody cussed each other out either.  That was the normal for us.

So, as I was trying not to pay too much attention to round 10 of the arguing across the street  which turned into round 15 this morning, it continued this morning but with a different person I felt bad for the little boy who lives there and I know that it takes a toll on him and he behaves just like the mom and dad. I have seen him frustrated before with a person or a game and the first thing he does is holler and scream and get upset. Then the second thing he does is want to physically fight. I have broken up more fights involving him that I can count on one hand. He eventually settles down but he is being raised in a screaming and arguing house so that is the only way he knows how to handle problems.

I have promised to cut down on the limited amount screaming and yelling I do here. I will admit I do it from time to time but it is few and far in between. I don't want my kid to think that is how you solve problems scream and yell. I hope that this kid who lives there and his baby brother learn one day that screaming and yelling 99 percent of the time will get you nowhere. There is a time to scream and yell but not all the time and at everybody.