Things that are Missed

My friend, who has been my friend since the 9th grade, were talking today about the "good ole days" About maybe 8-9 years ago she was in a long term relationship and it ended when he moved out one day with no warning. He was just gone one day when she came home. She had to move back with her parents and since then we have been in the same boat with a parent living with us. Her dad is not in good health but her mom has her problems but she still gets out and does stuff. Her mom has the attitude that she needs to keep moving so she won't be an "old" woman. She is pretty active although she complains sometimes she still is on the move. When we were talking we came to the same conclusion that when we left our old relationships for good reasons our lives pretty much got dull and boring. Not because of the people we left or left us just things changed. Parents got sick, kids grew up and have lives of their own, no transportation anymore, changing cities and moving and stuff that just happens that you don't have any control over. Plus a few people helping that along stabbing you in the back at certain times. I believe that the song by the O'Jays said it best, "Backstabbers" lol

I told her I missed doing simple things the most. I miss just going to the park when I wanted to with my son or just on the spur of the moment going out to get something to eat, seeing real friends in person more, being able to talk on the phone without someone calling my name two seconds after I get on the phone. I miss not having a lot of dishes to wash every night. (when I had a dishwasher I didn't care but now different story) I don't think I have ever washed more dishes in my life. My nephew used to help out with them but now his help has dwindled to every now and then like my son's help. If I was more strict like my mom he would be washing day and night like I had to do back in the day but I hated that so he has days to wash them during the week. On certain days I would love to have a maid, cook, driver, etc.. I also miss just sitting outside in the front or backyard with the sun shinning on my face. I miss just taking walks whenever I felt like it. I miss working outside of the house and interacting with other people at work and moaning about the boss. lol She missed that too.

Just today I was looking at the bedroom and it really needs to be cleaned especially the closet where my son has managed to put everything he can find in there and it needs to be cleaned and things need to be donated and thrown out and I mentioned this to my mom and she said oh yeah the corner in here the boxes with the depends for her need to be taken to the garage. I said yes. She asked what is stopping me from cleaning. Well, it is no problem moving stuff in the front room where she is and can see you but don't get out of her sight then she is like a toddler looking for her mama calling and  asking where you went. You would think that we lived in a castle with 300 rooms. The next room is like ten feet from the front room and if you are going to the bathroom closer then that. What I hate about apartments. LOL So, the only way I can do any great amount of cleaning is when someone is in the same room with her. And that won't be until the weekend. So, I just told her that I was working on it.

I guess I am working on a lot of things and trying to get back to the things I miss.